Roles of husband and wife

According to the Bible, the woman IS to be under subjection to the husband... AND/BUT... the husband is required to be under subjection to the wife. If your relationship is not solidified with CHRIST as the husband, by what authority do you require her submission? Not that you can "require" it anyway, if you are under authority to GOD then the wife should "want" to be under your Godly authority. This is a complex (and yet basic) concept that really need understanding to strengthen the married relationship. Any questions answered will be Bible based.